I have spent the last year researching the biggest challenges that soulful entrepreneurs just like you are facing. I’ve surveyed hundreds of women to determine what they need most to be successful in their businesses and I’m going to reveal that big challenge, and my best technique for overcoming it right now.
The #1 challenge is a biggie…drum roll please…CONFIDENCE!
Now when I say confidence that encompasses a lot!
Confidence includes spiritual and self-development practices, enhancing authenticity, being transparent, fully expressing ourselves, clarifying our purpose and identifying our core values.
While I could create a whole course on confidence, today I want to focus on how you can take control of your inner critic and negative self-talk. I am going to share with you now one of my most simple yet powerful techniques I use and teach my clients to use to recognize the negative thoughts when they creep up and how you can tackle them to the ground and replace them with a positive one, literally re-wiring your subconscious brain.
Your subconscious mind doesn’t understand the difference between real and imagined. It believes whatever it is told - told by you and also told by your parents, pastors, the news and society. That is why is is so important to take charge of your thoughts which will directly result in increased confidence.
Ok, so before I jump into this, make sure you have a pen and paper handy to take down notes…got it? Ok, here we go…
So here is my simple yet powerful tool.
The acronym PTFAR, P, T, F, A, R.
“P” is for PROGRAMMING
“T’ is for THOUGHTS
“F” is for FEELINGS
“A” is for Action
“R” is for RESULTS
So let me break down how this works…
“P” is for PROGRAMMING - if you want to change the results you achieve or if you want to change the direction of your life, you have to go back to your unconscious programming. Recognize that you have limiting programming about your worthiness. This isn’t programming that you were born with, you were born perfect and whole. This is programming that was placed on you you by your experiences as well as your family, society, media and religious leaders. In the case of lack of confidence the negative program may be “I am not worthy.”
“T” is for thoughts. As a result of that negative programming that you are not worthy, a negative thought is created such as, “I am going to fail.”
“F’ is for feeling - as a result of the negative thought “I am going to fail” a negative feeling is created such as feeling unworthy, sadness or shame.
“A” is for Action. As a result of the negative feeling of sadness a negative action or an in-action occurs of not doing the work you need to get done.
“R” is for RESULT — Because of your negative action or inaction of not doing the work you need to do, you have a negative result of not getting what you want or not realizing your dreams. So here the PTFAR exercise shows you how powerful your programming is and the importance of replacing the negative program with a positive program to create an overall feeling of confidence.
By using this exercise you can realize that we can’t control the programing from the past, but we can recognize that it exists and defeat it by replacing it with new thoughts about ourselves and our worthiness and then go through the whole process again.
So, let’s break down how the PTFAR process plays out when you replace the negative program with a positive one. The “P” for programming comes up that says, “I am not worthy” and instead of believing that, you replace the negative program with the a positive program “I am 100% worthy and loved.” This would lead to “T” for thought which would be a positive thought like “Anything is possible, I can reach my goals in life!” This positive thought leads to the “F” for feeling which would be feelings of excitement, motivation and confidence which would lead to “a” for action” the positive action of getting work done and taking courageous leaps in business. As a result of your positive action of getting your work done you would have a positive “R” for result of tremendous growth and clarity and…BOOM!
That is how you slay dragons.
That is how you build confidence.
It is an inside job.
Just you and your mind.
These negative programs will inevitable crop up, they always will. It is your ego’s way of wanting to be seen. But you can always conquer the ego with a good combination of proactive PTFAR and self-love and as a result your CONFIDENCE will grow.
To learn more mindful business tools check out Celia’s 7-Day Course The Mindful Business Toolkit
Celia teaches aspiring and emerging spiritual entrepreneurs how to launch their first online business, attract their first client and make their first dollar in her signature coaching program, The Super Fly Soulful Business Program http://TheSuperFlyProgram.com/
Celia's forward-thinking methodology focuses on the intersection of: money + meaning, business + self-care, action + receiving, strategy + soul and community building + collaboration. Her focus is to lead her community of heart-centered emerging world-changers to create a life and business by intentional design with lot’s of ease, grace and cash.